Life's like that - finite. All you can do is fill it as best you can and you did that for her.
And perhaps Momcat and your knowledge of the Philly cat scene can pass on another favor. If you were looking for a home for two young adult black cats(2-3 years) in the Philadelphia area and wanted to save them from going to a shelter (even though it would be a no-kill one), what would be the best way to get the word out?
There's a story behind it involving a wedding and allergies among the newly acquired family. Right now they're temporarily in my Mom's basement. (I'm on the other side of the world and can't take them myself.) Mom is *not* a cat person but even she says they're "kind of nice".
As sad as this post is, it is truly a beautiful one. I love that despite the difficult circumstances you're turning it into something positive - taking this as an opportunity to point attention to City Kitties and helping other cats. Momcat is lucky to have found you.
That's a hard decision and you're making it with grace. You're good people.
I believe she had the best life she could have, and it's because of you and Trillian. May that bring you a bit of comfort.
You gave her shelter, warmth, food and love, like it or lump it. Not a lot of creatures on this planet get that unconditional love. You, your wife and the whole innernets did the ol' girl pretty good.
You really are the best thing that could have ever come for her, and she knows somewhere deep down that if you think this is best for her, than it really is.
In any case, I'll miss the grumpy gal.
this made/makes me cry. she's been so lucky to have you and she doesn't even know it.
i hope she'll finally find peace somewhere.
i wish i could hug you.
I'm so very glad you had your time with her. Ultimately the time we have with our friends is what matters. Even if it is too short. I'm very glad she had this time with you. Feral or not, she knows she's loved.
$5.00 in Momcat's honor. I'm just sorry it couldn't be more. Your decision makes sense. I hope her last day is peaceful, and as happy as Momcat days get.
I do not feel sorry for you because all three of you have had the blessing of being in each others lives when it was needed. You gave Momcat the love, care, and catnippy toys to make her feel at home. And I'm sure she taught you a thing or two. lol
But I'd lie if I didn't say I feel sad.
A year and a half ago I had to come to the decision you made today. My beloved furkid I adopted at 7 years of age and we were together for 13 years. I loved her dearly, that Grand Dame of mine. I love her so much, I knew when cancer claimed her, it was time to let her go before her QOL became too painful.
In her own way, she thanked me.
Momcat will thank you too. To reference an earlier comment: you're a good egg, Mr. Kyle.
Sorry about your traumatic first trip to the vet. Looks like you have had a pretty good life overall tho.
i know that even though you KNOW it's the right decision, I know it is one you still are struggling with, i know you are afraid at last minute you may see a glimmer of hope for a better outcome. It's just your heart and mind playing tricks, she is indeed asking for release, from a world that she never quite understood. She must have faced an incredibly hard life to never have realized and warmed up to the love you freely gave to her. She is confused and scared and will be in a much better place for her. She will understand your love when she passes and I am sure she will be a guardian angel right along side of Thunderbelly and 1ear in your home.
I am crying just at the thought of this, I know too well about having to make this decision and my heart is with you in this time. Please be sure to let me know when you are having the gathering, I would truly love to be there.
If you have the opportunity, pet and kiss her once for me before her final breath.
You are amazing.
You have done, and are doing, the best possible for her. As someone who had to have a vet come to my house to euthanize a beloved dog who was absolutely terrified of the car, I can tell you that it really does make a difference.
I've read your blog for...I don't know how many years now but it's been quite a while. I feel as though I know Momcat and yet I've never met her or you. I just wanted to tell you that I completely understand your decision. It truly sounds like the best thing you can do for her at this point. *huggles*
Thank you for taking her into your lives and doing so much for her.
You guys rock for helping make a feral cat's life less horrific than it would have been in the wild. Once they're gone, there's no getting them back, friends of mine have cared for other ferals and had to put them down for similar reasons. It's never easy, but it's a much kinder death than they would have found in the wild.
I'm crying right there with you, but thankful that she had a kinder life and gets to have a painless death.
I can't donate right now. I am actually being sued for saving my babycat's life so... yeah... but I wanted to say that I think it is absolutely AMAZING that City Kitties will do such a thing for you. That is just...wow. I don't even know what to say. It's always hard to lose a pet, of course, and my sympathies are there, but wow... that is just amazing, so i am alzo very happy for you and wish you the very best of luck in finding a vet to help Momcat get to her final rest as peacefully as possible. And may kudos to City Kitties.
what a hard decision to come to. thank you for your efforts, I hope the last bit goes peacefully. Sending good thoughts to Momcat & you & your family.
Goodbye momcat. I had hopes for you... that you could see how blessed you were to cross paths with an amazing, caring soul like Kyle. And you know, even though you didn't show it, I think you knew, somewhere, how treasured you are/were.
Kyle- you're awesome. (I'm sure Trillian tells you every day, and the kitties too, in their own way.) Also, I'll see what I have left in my bank acct when I return from my current vacation, but I have a 'pet' project, as recently posted on my LJ, in trying to raise the donations for a local kitty that needs a lot of work... :-/
She'll be at peace, and that's the important thing.
"The life she had was, really, the best one she could possibly have had given the cards she was dealt."
That's the best any of us can ever hope for with the cats we adopt. Most often, each new day we give them is a day they otherwise wouldn't have had. You've given Momcat four years she might not have had. That's surely a thing to celebrate.
In the meantime, all my sympathies in what I know is a terribly depressing time.
I'm so sorry it has come down to this. Honestly, I'm not so much sad for you (although I truly am...), as for Momcat. I know she loves you in her way, but just couldn't bridge that gap between her and the strange, frightening creatures you appear to her to be. I have a cat like that, and we're starting to be friends, but it has taken close to 10 years to get here, and sometimes she still runs from us. You just didn't have all that time. Making decisions like this is so very hard, and I know you don't make it lightly. Enjoy the rest of the time you will have together, as much as she will let you. Tell he you love her and will miss her, but it's time to let her go. She'll understand. Bast will bless you for doing all that you could, and making her passing as peaceful as is possible.
I sent a donation in her name. As always, I wish it could be more.
I can't tell you how hard I cry every time I have to take my old girl to the vet on those "oh god is this it" trips every couple years - poor Kyle and Trillian. :(
Fare thee well, beautiful Momcat.
I'm extremely sorry to hear that :(. I lost two cats recently myself :(.