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Momcat Update [Jul. 15th, 2009|08:48 pm]
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Momcat's luck has run its course. The polyp in her ear has come back and it's larger. On top of this we found out today the vet thinks it may be cancerous. I've come to the conclusion, as her guardian, that the best thing to do is euthanize her.

But don't be sad -- hold back a moment, because there is good in all of this, I promise.

We knew after her last visit to the vet that she needed an additional surgery. Years ago when Thunderbelly, who might actually have been the coolest cat on Earth, died I promised Milla (who was the only other being in my life at the time) I would never let her suffer. I decided that if Momcat could have Quality of Life then I'd subject her to another trapping, another taxi ride, another surgery, and another recovery, not knowing if there would be more afterwards. trillian_stars and I spent the last three months trying to see if we could guarantee her that Quality of Life, knowing that we had a limited time to determine that. Anti-depressants were a failure, drastic socialization attempts as well.

In the four years that Momcat's been here, we've made only very limited progress -- she's still a feral cat and she's too far gone to ever be anything more (or less). It's sad for me to think this, but we've tried, she is what she is.

City Kitties is helping us find a vet who will come and perform the euthanasia here, because I don't want her last hours on earth to be trapping, car rides, and terrifying new places.

Momcat was never truly happy. She was, at times, less grumpy and less persecuted, but that's it. She was a broken one that I couldn't fix.

I'll be calling vets tomorrow morning.

In the meantime -- there is something you can do. City Kitties takes care of stray cats and kittens every day finding them homes and medical care and while momcat sits, grumpy, on my bed hating everybody who walks past, City Kitties knows a dozen cats that want, desperately want, humans. You can send them a donation in Momcat's name and from this sad thing, so many good things can happen.









When the fell deed is done we shall have a celebration to remember her life and you'll all be invited. The life she had was, really, the best one she could possibly have had given the cards she was dealt. And right now, although I'm dripping a cascade of tears onto this keyboard, I feel accomplished. She and I tried our best. I will see her as far as I can along the best road I can find for her.



Don't feel sorry for us, that doesn't accomplish anything; instead, be something positive for someone:--turn this moment into shining, radiant good.
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[User Picture]From: ed_dirt
2009-07-16 07:52 am (UTC)

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You're a rare and special dude, Kyle Cassidy.

Peace to Momcat.
[User Picture]From: xfericireax
2009-07-16 08:38 am (UTC)

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You are such an incredible person. People like you give me hope. And from what I've seen on your entries, I'm sure that you've given her everything you could. <3
[User Picture]From: martyr669
2009-07-16 08:46 am (UTC)

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I had a feeling this was coming. :( You've done a wonderful job with her over the years. You did everything you could for her and made progress where others would not have. I'm going to miss her.
[User Picture]From: biotheory
2009-07-16 09:13 am (UTC)

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I have nothing but the utmost respect for you and Trillian, as you've tried your best for Momcat over the years and it really shows. She's beautiful, and mysterious in her own way. It won't make it any less difficult for you, but you're in my thoughts.

Thank you for sharing Momcat with us.
[User Picture]From: standrewsfall
2009-07-16 09:25 am (UTC)

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Kyle and Trillian,
I know ultimately Momcat will thank you for having the courage to do the best thing for her. Euthanizing a pet is never an easy choice, but in this case, where you honestly have done SO MUCH to ensure she had Quality of Life, I believe it is the best option for you.

I hope the vet visit is as untraumatic as possible for your whole household.

I will miss the pictures of her glaring or dispairing at the camera.
[User Picture]From: agent_999
2009-07-16 09:43 am (UTC)

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I'm so, so sorry to hear this. Thank you so much for sharing Momcat with us.
[User Picture]From: niamh_sage
2009-07-16 10:12 am (UTC)

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I'm so glad Momcat found her way to you and Trillian Stars. You both gave her the best possible life she could have had under the circumstances.

I wish Momcat a peaceful transition, and thank her for bringing her own unique light to the world.

*Hugs* to you all.
[User Picture]From: b_a_t
2009-07-16 10:29 am (UTC)

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Farwell, Momcat, on your way to the rainbow! =^o^=


Edited at 2009-07-16 10:30 am (UTC)
[User Picture]From: marketeer
2009-07-16 11:02 am (UTC)

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You did the best you could for her. You found good homes for her kittens, made sure she wasn't contributing to the kitten population of your city, and kept her warm and dry. You have my heartfelt sympathy.
[User Picture]From: aikigrrl
2009-07-16 11:37 am (UTC)

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My thoughts are with you all.
I don't know what else to say.
[User Picture]From: tripodella
2009-07-16 11:45 am (UTC)

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Some of her cards were indeed lucky. She got you, and you gave her a peaceful environment in her last years. Decisions like this are hard, and we'll all miss her.
[User Picture]From: kirkcudbright
2009-07-16 12:15 pm (UTC)

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Suck. It's a tough decision to make, even when it's the right (or only) decision. In the past year, I've had to put down a dog and a horse.

Our feral cat has turned into a loving and affectionate house-cat, but definitely on her terms - she still has a gut-level wariness of humans and their motives. The barn kittens, OTOH, have never known anything but love in their lives, and I want to protect and nurture their innocence.

So yeah, I'll be giving to City Kitties, to make some other cat's life better.
[User Picture]From: firan
2009-07-16 12:25 pm (UTC)

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I'm so sorry. I think you are making the best decision for her although it always seems like the hardest one to make.

For some reason this hit me hard this morning. I think it's because I'm feeling very hormonal due to being due with my baby boy in 2 weeks. When I had my daughter Aimee 2 years ago I had to euthanize my 17 year old kitty Duchess a week after giving birth due to her kidney failure and we had done all we could for her. I still miss her.
[User Picture]From: onesoul
2009-07-16 01:04 pm (UTC)

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I do think it is positive that M-cat had such loving humans around her. And I continue to be so overjoyed by your giving to help other kitties.

*hug*
[User Picture]From: olivetree
2009-07-16 01:04 pm (UTC)

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There's reason why I will only ever live with rescue pets.

Thanks for the reminder.
[User Picture]From: mattcaron
2009-07-16 01:37 pm (UTC)

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*hug*
[User Picture]From: melindadansky
2009-07-16 02:30 pm (UTC)

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Can you send me the code for the "Donate" link? I'd like to re-post it on my blog. We'll be donating to our local shelter in Momcat's name.

I can't say how much this post has moved me. Your kindness, even when you're grieving, is amazing. Thank you.
From: (Anonymous)
2009-07-16 03:04 pm (UTC)

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Poor mom cat. I agree with your decision though. Its best to let them rest in peace then to go to bed in pain. I almost had to put my lizard down this past winter and it nearly tore me apart. I saved him from a bad lifestyle so he means more to me then anything....even though, like momcat, he is always miserable.

I had a cat once, that we saved...and she would pee on my grandparents bed and chairs so one day I came home and she was gone :-(

I hope that your last days with momcat are spent well!
[User Picture]From: v3ruc4
2009-07-16 03:08 pm (UTC)

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This made me so much more sad than I thought it would. You are just wonderful, Kyle, and I think deep down Momcat really wanted to love you.
[User Picture]From: allykatt
2009-07-16 03:13 pm (UTC)

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you're truly a good man, kyle.
[User Picture]From: phenom_woman
2009-07-16 03:28 pm (UTC)

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You have given her comfort, shelter, and love even when she didn't know she needed it. You and Trillian are amazing.
[User Picture]From: andratte
2009-07-16 03:33 pm (UTC)

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Some wills just cant be broken. Not even when they harm themselves. She is who she is.

You did your best with her. And while her story is a tearful one for me. I donated, so that something bright will come from it.

[User Picture]From: tntoxfox
2009-07-16 03:34 pm (UTC)

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Gosh, I just don't have the words. I'm shedding tears at work too.

Many hugs for all of you. You're good souls, know that for sure.
[User Picture]From: katemckinnon
2009-07-16 03:38 pm (UTC)

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(((((momcat)))))))

I clicked the button, donated with love, for you and Trillian and Momcat and the others that still need us.
[User Picture]From: indigo_spice
2009-07-16 03:48 pm (UTC)

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You're a good man, Kyle Cassidy. Rest in peace, Momcat. I'm glad I got to meet you.
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